Finding peace in the silly season

November 28, 2023

7 ways to end your year with joy and calm

This time of year “should” feel fun. It’s the festive season after all.

But somewhere in between the celebration, connection, and joy we often find stress, anxiety, and overwhelm creeping in. With so much pressure to meet social obligations, fulfil expectations, and find the perfect gifts, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s truly important – your own wellbeing.

This year, instead of letting your festive spirit get stomped out, prioritise your own needs to create some inner peace amidst the chaos.

This year, say yes to navigating the silly season with joy and peace.


1. Embracing Self-Care With People Around

Self-care doesn’t have to be a solitary endeavour. Instead of isolating yourself or feeling like you have to hide away to get some ‘me time’, consider how you could connect with loved ones in a way that nourishes your soul too. 

Maybe instead of going for yet another Saturday night dinner, you could round up your friends for a leisurely walk on the beach followed by a soothing dip in the ocean. Or balance a long family brunch of non-stop eating, sitting and drinking with a more physical activity such as stand-up paddleboarding or bike riding. 

If giving back to your community fills your cup, gather your family together to volunteer at your local homeless shelter. 

Put a focus on simply spending quality time together without the distractions of technology.

EXTRA TIP FOR MUMS: Mammas need to shift the mindset that self care is something we can ONLY do when we have buckets loads of ‘free time’ or, are away from our children. Deep breaths as you serve kids dinner, laying on the floor for 5mins whilst kids play, noise cancelling headphones whilst kids watch TV. Do what you can, when you can. It all adds up!


2. Manage Your Intensity – Don’t Overdo It

December brings all the intense emotions – both positive and negative. Recognise these feelings as the visitors that they are. They only stick around and cause a fuss when you try to ignore them. 

By acknowledging your emotions, you allow them to hang around, do what they need to then be on their way. Remember – your feelings signal what’s happening for you. By tuning into how you feel, it’s much easier to know when to rest, when to work and when to play.

Be mindful of your energy levels and don’t push yourself beyond your limits. Take breaks when needed, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when overwhelm starts sneaking in.

Also, set realistic expectations instead of trying to do everything and be everywhere. Prioritise what’s most important to you and let go of the rest.


3. Practice Positive Self-Talk

Holiday season often sets our Inner Mean Girl (IMG) off. She strolls out and starts talking trash about you. From worrying about your family commenting on your gift choices to deciding which food to eat, IMG loves to bring all the negative self-talk. 

But your IMG only has power IF you let her. Shush her by stopping comparing yourself to others, scrutinising your appearance, or feeling guilty for not doing enough. 

Swap these harmful self-deprecating thoughts for practicing positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your strengths, your accomplishments, and your incredible worthiness. You are beautiful, powerful, creative and clever no matter what IMG says.


4. Quit Overthinking Decisions

From choosing wrapping paper to planning out your family dinner, the holiday season is chock full of choices and expectations. Decision fatigue is real – the more decisions you have to make, the more tiring it becomes. So by the end of the day, you eat the whole tub of ice cream instead of stopping when you’re full, because you just don’t have the willpower to make one more decision. 

Instead of overthinking every decision, simplify your approach. Focus on a few meaningful traditions that bring you joy and let go of the rest. This way, you keep your willpower strong for the choices that really matter.


5. Build Your De-stress Kit

Stress is inevitable during the holidays. Instead of trying to eliminate it altogether, say hello to it and find healthy ways to manage it. It’s okay to stress sometimes, the key is to know how to destress and keep some balance in your day.

Experiment with activities that promote relaxation such as:

Find three actions or activities to bring you the strongest sense of calm or help you shake off stress faster. Practice them daily so you build the habit of turning down the pressure from whatever’s happening in your life.


6. Put you hand up

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out to your friends, family, or a professional for support.

Remember, the holidays are not about perfection or fulfilling every expectation. And events often have small hiccups or don’t go according to plan so be prepared to adapt and roll with it.

Focus instead on cherishing moments with loved ones, creating memories, and fostering a sense of peace and joy within yourself. 


7. Did you just say No?

Women are often afraid to say no. We’re recovering people-pleasers who want everyone to just get along.

But one of the most important ways to nurture your needs during the holidays is to learn to say no. We understand it isn’t easy but holding healthy boundaries not only protects your headspace, it also teaches everyone around you what you need. 

So go ahead and give yourself permission to decline invitations for events that conflict with your own personal commitments or feel overwhelming. 

As much as we want to celebrate with everyone and help our family and community come together, they won’t get the best version of you if you’re tense, frustrated or exhausted (or all three!).

Remember, you don’t have to attend every gathering or participate in every activity. By thoughtfully selecting which events you go to, your December becomes less of a Tetris game (trying to find the gaps in your calendar to get everything done) and more of an adventure with space to breathe between memorable, enjoyable moments.


Prioritise your wellbeing and squeeze in some self-care (no matter what it looks like) to create a calm, joyful end to the year.



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